My husband and I don’t usually celebrate Valentine’s Day. For some years, we have done small things for each other but it is never a big deal. It is not because it is so commercial. Between January 1st and February 14th, we both have birthdays. And we celebrate our anniversary. Adding another day to tell each other of our love sounds forced. It also is more money coming out of the budget. It is not our thing.
For many couples, it is an important day. I sympathize with the guys. It is a day that they feel like a superstar or a failure by their woman’s reaction to their gift. It is like the whole relationship is judged by Valentine’s Day gift. It doesn’t matter how the couple treats each other for the rest of the year if the Valentine’s Day gifts were perfect.
Floral Department on Valentine’s Day
I worked in the floral department of a location grocery store. I worked through three Valentine’s Day rushes. We hated that holiday. It meant long hours; one day I worked a 15-hour shift. It meant high priced, lower quality roses. And most of all stressed out men. There were two other women and myself working in the department. So many times, the men would ask us what to buy to impress their women. It was like it was a competition to impress. It was sad.
Then occasionally a man would come in and pick up a small bouquet of flowers. It was usually a middle aged or an older gentleman. They would be confident and not tempted by all the high priced fancy arrangements. I once asked an elderly gentleman why he was buying a small bunch of flowers. He smiled and said, “I know my wife and these are her favorites.” He explained that if he wanted to show love to her, he would buy what she enjoyed not what he thought would impress her. He said that he had no need to impress her; just to love her.
The LGBTQ crowd was interesting on Valentine’s Day. Some would go all out and spend tons of money for their gifts. And others would buy small and inexpensive. But, they too wanted to impress their special someone.
The last group of people was the saddest. These were the people who would come into the floral department with downcast faces. They would look longingly at the arrangements. We knew these people did not have anyone special in their lives. Men, women and the LGBTQ crowd would come and stare at the flowers. You could see the pain in their faces. We could see that they felt small, insignificant and worthless. They thought they had to have a special someone. Unfortunately, we were there to sell the products so they were ignored by us too. But, we noticed and could not do anything.
Looking for love
Many of the people I saw in the floral department were “looking for love in all the wrong places.” They were hoping and dreaming about that special person. That person would make them feel loved and important. But no one can do that for us. Until we realize this, we put enormous pressure on others to validate us. God is the only one that can assure you of your worth and value. People are flawed; God is perfect. If you look for your value in what others think of you, you will always be let down. Your value will be sky high one day and in the pits the next day. God is never changing and tells you the truth.
He loves you!
This is how much God loved the world: He gave his Son, his one and only Son.
John 3:16 Message
You are his child!
For you are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus.
Galatians 3:26 NLT
See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!
1 John 3: 1 NIV
He delights in you!
The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.
Zephaniah 3:17 NIV
Happy Valentine’s Day. Enjoy your friends and your family. But know that no one can love you like Jesus can. If you don’t know Jesus and would like to know more about him, let me know.
I would also like to hear about your Valentine’s Day. Please share with me in the comment section.